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Spontaneous Tea Parties

Sometimes we can get so busy with our to do lists that we push aside time for friendship and making special memories with our kiddos. You are making memories with your kids all day long… sock pairing party…popsicles outside on the porch. Every little random moment in the day can be made special. But I wanted to set aside some time to do something EXTRA special with Sienna. And I also wanted to reach out to a friend to get together. I kept putting it off because life was so busy..but you know what…life isn’t slowing down anytime soon. So sometimes you just have to randomly text your friend the night before and invite them over for a tea party! I invited my sister and my niece too! Everyone was up for an after nap tea time ;)
After Church on Sunday, Sienna Micah and I ran over to target to grab a few tea party essentials! I loved seeing sienna be so excited about setting up her table and picking all the pink treats. We hit the end caps of the aisles for the clearance items! Polka dot balloons for the win! 

Sienna was so excited to set up her table. When we were at target, after getting the treats, She said, “ok… now we need to talk decorations.” (with hands clasped together) haha.. hmm she is definitely my daughter. I kind of was loving it. But also helped her see we didn’t need much.. just some pretty plates and napkins and some polka dot balloons! We grabbed up the $1 hello kitty bracelets for each of the girls. I loved seeing her set her table and be so giddy for her friends and cousin to arrive. Violette brought her flowers…they were so adorable together.

We used the green toys tea set that we already had… ben and I gave it to the girls’ for christmas this year! love love the set. We use water for our tea parties. because there is a lot of spillage going on. :) I was told multiple times by sienna with her loud whisper, “this is the best tea party everrrrr!!”
Made my mama heart happy. (the container holding the marshmallows is plastic and from target. love it for the littles because they feel so fancy using it but it’s also safe and not fragile! highly recommend it if you are going to host kid get togethers!)teapartyfun3-thebusybudgetingmama

Micah was ALL ABOUT the tea party too. he was a little upset we were short a seat. But we let him get in on the tea cup holding and drinking. and sienna the hostess helped him to some marshmallows and cookies. Doggie came to the tea party for a bit.
and kept licking all the giggly guests. ;)


After our smashing tea party, we all walked to the park for play time. My mom came to the tea party too.. it was fun having some time to talk with adults…and let the littles play. Sometimes we need that more than a clean house or empty laundry baskets.
I think these spontaneous tea parties are going to be a regular thing for us.
Sophia was out of town for this one (in philly with ben visiting grandma b!)
I told her we will have one before we move to the new house.
Which is in a couple weeks….. I should be packing.
Have a wonderful day! and remember to soak up
your sweeties and give yourself grace. You are doing a great job!

Favorite Beauty Products (Most Drugstore)


I LOVE hearing about beauty products people have found and love.
I spend most of my shopping time at Target so that’s where most of my items are from!
These are a mix of new (this month) and old (since high school) favorites.
Hope you try some of these out and love them too!marchfavoritebeautyproducts2-thebusybudgetingmama

Full n’ Soft Maybelline Mascara

Can’t so a beauty favorites post without mentioning this mascara!
Been using it since high school. have tried others.. never as good as this one!
I use the waterproof because I’m an emotional weepy mess. (it actually just stays on better)
But I also use the regular and it’s fantastic. Eyelashes for days ladies!
Purchased at Target (not on their website but walmart has it online)

Sonia Kashuk Blush
I have a few of these blushes and love them all!
Love the colors and how they go and stay on.
Purchased at Target – Flushed + Flamingo

Elf Eyelid Primer
This stuff is THE BOMB. it’s cheap. like 1 or 3 bucks. and it works!
It helps my eyeshadow stay on and not crease. Been using for a couple years and huge fan.
Purchased at Target

Sonia Kashuk Eyeshadow
OK. First… I haven’t seen this at my target lately. and I need it as you can see one side is all gone. BUT if yours has it grab it! I use the light shade for the lid and the dark for the crease..and blend. LOVE it. it’s my go too.  BUT.. since the light is gone and I can’t find it…
The next item I got as a replacement and I ended up loving it too!
Purchased at Target – Diamond Life

Cover Girl Eyeshadow Quad
I use the first shade of the Notice me Nudes set every day.
But I love the sparkly options it has too for fun date nights!
Purchased at Target – Notice me Nudes

Maybelline Cover Stick
This is a great product to have in your beauty bag for those days you end up with a blemish that is red and needs a little help with coverage! I used this last month on a spot that was healing but was still so red it needed the green to cancel it out before I put my foundation over it. Wonder worker. Great coverage.
Purchased at Target (Green one isn’t online but here’s a similar one)

Pixi Beauty Bronzer
This Product is a miracle worker! use a good brush (I use this one) to
brush into the hollows of your cheek (you are wanting to emphasize a shadow.)
Just like dark jeans make your butt look smaller… the shadow there makes your face look skinnier and your cheek bones pop! You can also use it all over your face. I do it in the hollows of my cheeks/right under cheekbones line and around my forehead and jaw line.
My friend Christine introduced me to the world of bronzer..I was always afraid of it.
But this is a great first step into it. not too bold but makes a difference.

MAC Mineralize Concealer
This is the only non drugstore item on this list!
And it’s here for a reason.. IT’S AMAZING. It lasts forever so It’s worth the price and trip to the mall to get it. Use it under your eyes to brighten and make you look awake and younger. It highlights the area to make it look more flat and fresh. I went to the store looking for something else and the girl showed me this..she put it on me and I was like oh my gosh you just changed my life haha. As a mama… this is a must.
I purchased this at MAC and use the NW15 Shade

BENEFIT Foundation stick
I get this product at ULTA. I consider that a drugstore! It has a mix of more expensive and cheaper items. I got this foundation to replace a foundation I loved that was no longer being made… But I ended up loving it even more! It has greattttt coverage. Lasts pretty well if you set it with a powder. Needs the powder to help it stay nice and matte but I like how it feels on the skin. I have acne spots and scars and this is great for coverage. Highly recommend this baby! I draw some lines over my face and then use this brush to apply it…then I’ll just dab it with my finger and cover problem spots an extra time if needed. good to go! I only wish they had a lighter shade. This shade is perfect in the summer but I have to blend it more in the winter.
I purchased this at ULTA – Tea Party

Not your Mother’s Thermal Shield Spray
This baby helps my hair stay straight and smooth. I wish it smelled a little better..but it doesn’t stop me from using it! Kind of fruity but the smell doesn’t last long.
I spray it on the sections of my hair before I straighten them.
It really does make a difference using something to protect your
hair before applying so much heat!
I purchased at Walmart 

Dove Whipped Cream Mousse
I wanted to try out a mousse on my curls and this one smells amazing!
My hair has lost curls with each pregnancy. It’s now wave-ish if I let it air dry.
I wash my hair and then brushed it and put this mousse in. multiple times.
I love how it felt and with a little dry shampoo at the roots had lots of body.
I can get my hair curlier if I don’t brush it after showering..but today was too busy!
(Sometimes I’ll shower.. brush my hair.. then put my hair under the shower faucet again to wet it..and then put product in. gets better curls but it takes longer to dry)
I purchased at Target 3.94!!!!

Herbal Essences Naked Dry Shampoo
THIS SMELLS INCREDIBLE. I Haven’t used it very much yet…
but I am loving it so far! Worth getting. Dry shampoo is my
secret weapon that isn’t really a secret. SMELLS INCREDIBLE
I purchased at Target

These are some favorites right now and I hope you find it helpful
if you are looking for new beauty products!
Let me know if this is a post you want to see more of!

Learning to be content in my Season

I want to make it all. everything. I want to make the DIY rustic industrial coffee table. I want to make the felt play food sushi and tea bags. I want to make the gift wrapping station.
I want to throw a playdate with all my friends and their kids and have creative/themed snacks and activities. I want to actually get through my laundry pile.
I want to make all of the meals I’ve pinned on pinterest.
It’s not happening. None of it. And I’m learning to be ok with it.contentinmyseason-thebusybudgetingmama

Having 3 kids…. and coming up on having baby #4 in october. I’ve gone through many different seasons of life. All of them with their own challenges and smooth sailing.
Some seasons harder than others. Some seasons including more break down crying moments than others. (all included them… just some had more than others.)


Reality, really stinks some times. especially when you don’t agree with how much time you REALLY have in a day. or how much energy you REALLY have. I remember after having my second baby.. I was like wait….I’m feeling like I want to do all these things…and I physically can’t make it happen….And I had to have a cry sesh on the phone with my mom and get a reality check. You can’t do it all… and that’s ok. It doesn’t mean you never will be able to do that dream or that DIY IKEA hack….lol… just today… we are choosing something else.

I’m in the season of I have a husband, raise 3 kids under the age of 6, run a business and blog and grow a human. Some of those things are ever changing..some aren’t.
I’ll always be a wife and mama…but the demands of the kids and work are ever changing.
Right now..I feel miserable. morning sickness this round is the worst yet.
I mean horrible. horrible. praying trying to get through it horrible.
I’m so grateful for this baby and I know this season won’t last forever.
But please forgive me if you see me and I look like death. because we are seriously coasting through at this point haha. Micah brushed my hair with a plastic fork for a good 15 minutes today. The thought of how bad an idea that was didn’t even cross my mind. I wasn’t moving. he was somewhat still. we went with it. luckily no one was stabbed and my hair looked phenomenal afterwards.
Ben has swooped in many meal times to save the day. Otherwise the kids would be eating pbj’s and cheese puffs for the entire first trimester.

I’m learning to be ok with the season of life I’m in.
That I won’t feel sick forever. and our kids won’t be these ages forever.
That I can make all the things and do all the things…I just need to be realistic, patience with myself, and at peace.
Because the problem with a restless heart…is you aren’t at peace with where you are at and you can’t be truly present if you are always wishing and longing for other things. In those moments, I’m not living in the present and seeing the amazing things going on around me. I’m blocking out the good and only seeing the GAHH I’m gonna lose my mind parts.
I heard a very smart quote the other day. and I think it was a quote of a quote…but
It was something like, we sometimes think the grass is always greener over there…
but in reality..
the grass is green where you water it.
So I’m gonna water my grass. I’m gonna throw up and feel exhausted and do laundry when I can and let the laundry go when I can’t and love on my kids and choose them over work and work when I can and set goals and be realistic with myself and my time and energy. I’m going to be at peace knowing this is where I’m at right now… make goals but be present.
I’m gonna make that eggless cookie dough and eat it while binge watching netflix with my husband. or go to bed with the kids at 7:30 because
I’ve been counting down till bedtime since 9am.
I’m going to work my butt off when they nap and I’m not sick. I’m going to work with purpose and put all of me in it not just to make something from it but to build something amazing and make an impact on a community.
I’m going to blog my heart and not worry about pins.
I’m going to NOT blog some days and be ok with it.
I’m going to be ok with where I’m  at and not worry about everything I’m not able to do.
I’m going to love my family, and it will be a flawed love, but an example to them of trying to be patient and kind and asking for forgiveness and starting over the next day.

I encourage all of you mamas… don’t compare.. and don’t be frustrated.
Some seasons of life are hard. But each season is beautiful and good.
Water your grass and be at peace. dream and pin away but you are good and amazing even without the perfectly organized pantry. although if you have free time
and want to organize mine, I’m game.

One Year Ago- I thought I might Die

I can’t believe it’s been a year. A year since I was in the hospital facing so much pain and fear. I thought I was about to leave my husband and my children and my family. I thought for sure the pain would be too much or they would finally run that last test and it would prove to be something we couldn’t fix. I teared up this week thinking about it. Sometimes I have a fear that creeps up in me that the pain will come back. That the 40 percent of my pancreas they removed with the precancerous cyst and my gall bladder and spleen will not have been effective and that cancer comes up somewhere else. In december I was at my parents house just crying in my mom and dad’s family room because I felt this weight over me as the one year came was coming up. Of course they reassured me and told me not to worry. worry does nothing. So I tried my best to tuck it away and out of my mind and just pray for peace. Peace in my heart and for strength in knowing that God has a plan and that if His plan is for it to come back.. let’s glorify Him with it. We can do this. He gives us everything we need to face our crosses.
(You can read my original hospital reflection post here)

So many of you heard about the incredibly story of Paul Coakley and his wife Ann. Ben and I went to the same college as them and had mutual friends. We followed their journey and bravery and amazing faith during those last days of his life. I couldn’t help but see similarities in our stories at the very beginning, but then sadly his diagnosis turned the other way. My heart broke for them. I looked at their photos and thought that could have been us. Our tests could have come back and been that far gone. It was amazing seeing the community rally behind them. and how sometimes moments of such suffering bring the most amazing qualities out of people.

My husband recently started a blog. The Striving Christian Man. I love reading his thoughts. love love it. He has such a heart for fatherhood and wanting men to have community and encouragement as they brave through being a father. He wrote a post today reflecting on the one year since I was in the hospital. ‘One year ago I thought I was losing my bride.’ I’m so thankful and grateful that I had such a strong and holy man by my side. He was my rock through all of that…the time in the hospital..and then the months after when I was recovering and coming off the medicine and healing and slowly able to get back to myself. I remember Micah not wanting to come to me. And sophia, so afraid every time I left for a check up that I was going to stay at the hospital and not come back. It really shook our family. shook us straight to the core and made us cry out to God with all the energy we had left. Begging for strength to get through that time.

Looking back I can’t believe how skinny I was. I didn’t even realize. Not eating that first week and then barely eating the week after that. I had no energy or strength. I remember being barely able to walk, let alone pick up micah. I was soo happy when I finally could pick him up and hold him and squeeze him. took a month or so but it came. I was so happy to be able to physically mother my kids again. There was a time there I had to hand that off to everyone around me.. I could barely comfort micah when he cried. But that time passed. And I encourage anyone going through a hard time, no matter what it is. Physical or emotional suffering….. this time will pass. God is good. and He is your strength. Give yourself grace and don’t try to do everything. It’s ok to have others help you. We need community.

I can’t believe where we are today. Healthy and all together. Announcing Baby #4 coming this fall. God is good. Thankful for all the people who prayed and took care of us this time last year. The meals..the letters from around the world to my kids encouraging them and making them smile….Thankful for my dad who took care of my kids that first week and my mom who helped there and with me at the hospital. Going back and forth staying with the kids or with me at hospital so that ben could be with the kids some nights. I needed them so much. And they were there. sleeping in those uncomfortable chairs at the hospital. being strong for me and then crying in the hall. Helping me get through those hours of pain at a time.

I do not know what the future holds… and if cancer will be a part of my story.
But I am grateful for the healing I experienced last year and the amazing
support I had from my family and friends. I feel stronger for experiencing that.
I am thankful for the suffering that brought me to my knees and closer to God.
I hope that I can always hold onto that as I face whatever comes my way.

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